How To Handle Your Muchness

How To Handle Your Muchness

How To Handle Your Muchness

I have spent most of my life living in too muchness. This was never more present than when it came to my drinking and drug taking. A true life of muchness.

I was either not drinking, going to the gym every day, juicing, going to yoga and going to bed at 10:00pm or going out for 2 days straight and bouncing between high and hungover. This translated to every area of my life. I was either fully IN or fully OUT.

Too Muchness In Dating

I am a wildly passionate and loving human that is also super neurodiverse. I have always found it hard to regulate my emotions without them swinging to extremes. This has been difficult when it has come to building relationships, specifically romantic relationships. I feel deeply or find it difficult to feel at all which means I find it hard to navigate the middle mode of emotions.

Then there is always the question of do I tell my dates I am neurodiverse or do I wait for them to realise that maybe there is something a little ‘unique’ about me, my emotions and the way my brain operates. I also experience very highs and crashing lows.  I am not sure if this is very sexy? And I’m pretty sure it can all feel a little bit too much (even with my shiney sober self).

When it comes to dating I can’t multiple date and I prefer to put my energy into one connection as I find it hard to have emotions for more than one person at one time. The plus side? I am super loyal, I give myself the chance to get to know people properly without writing them off too early (which I think we can do all  too easily when it comes to modern dating as we are only one swipe away from our next date) and I am more intentional about who I date. I think there is real value in getting to know one person well rather than many people on the surface.

Too Muchness In Other Relationships

I don’t just find this when building romantic relationships but just when building relationships in general. I am no doubt a people person and thrive off new connections and social occasions. I like to get to know people and have no time for shallow and surface conversations. I am curious about people and love to always find out more.

Sometimes this might be ‘too much’ for people but ultimately, we are all human and we are here to shine our brightest light, not dim our sparkle and mine just happens to be my very inquisitive, thoughtful and deeply emotional personality and brain.

Since starting my hangover free journey back in 2018 I feel like my emotions are more in HD than they have ever been. Without alcohol I can no longer escape the fact they are all mine. I would often think maybe it was alcohol’s fault or my hangover’s fault for the muchness of my mind but it turns out that no, it’s just MY mind.

I can be labeled ‘too intense’ ‘too sensitive’ and ‘too emotional’. I found an article by Psychology Today about too muchness and I found the below paragraph which sums up how I feel and explains my life experience a little better;

Some people feel more than others. They are often told—spoken and unspoken—that they are “too much,” “too intense,” “too sensitive,” “too emotional,” and that their behaviors are either “too dramatic” or “too timid.”

People who feel more deeply and intensely than others are more aware of subtleties; their brain processes information and reflects on it more deeply. People with emotional intensity are sometimes described as sensitive, caring, and attentive. At their best, they can be exceptionally perceptive, intuitive, and keenly observant of the subtleties of the environment. Yet they are also overwhelmed by the constant waves of social nuances and others’ emotional and psychic energies.They tend to notice and remember a lot and can be overstimulated when things are too chaotic or novel for a long time.

The Benefits Of Too Muchness

I have a deep understanding of humans and their emotions – I can really FEEL others when they are talking to me which means I have a really deep understanding of them which allows for deeper connections.

I am highly sensitive to my surroundings – this means I am able to feel a deep appreciation and pleasure for things such as nature, art, music, sounds and textures.

I am very open and loving – I can really feel love easily and view others with empathy and kindness.

I am perceptively gifted –  I can sense and perceive things that others miss. With acute awareness, I can see beyond superficiality, grasp patterns, and make linkages.

Intellectually I am  inquisitive and reflective – I have a strong need to seek to understand, to expand my horizons and  to gain knowledge.

I can connect with my intuition – I can almost feel things before they happen or before they are said.

How To Embrace Your Muchness

Self – acceptance – learning self -acceptance, giving yourself self – compassion and self kindness for the unique being that you are is a great place to start in your journey of embracing your muchness.

You have a gift – seeing the world in a different way is a gift. You are able to connect with yourself, the world and others they many people cannot simply access. If you can learn to harness this power you can start to view these qualities as your gifts to the world.

Create communication – sometimes it might feel that others find it hard to understand you. It is important with those closest to us or sometimes with new relationships that we are able to communicate our needs and explain a little more how our brain works so we can make our relationships run a little more smoothly.

I hope you can see how magical, unique and special you really are and that your muchness is your superpower.

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Why We Should Stop Shaming Moderation

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Why We Should Stop Shaming Moderation

I can’t tell you how many times I have seen sober coaches, sober Instagram pages, sober podcasts, books or articles shame moderation. I believe that the concept moderation isn’t here to be shamed but to be shared because the majority of us wouldn’t have even got to more positive drinking habits or indeed sobriety without it.

The concept of moderation to anyone with a difficult relationship with alcohol can seem like a unicorn that they can almost touch but as much as they try they somehow just end up back on the drinking horse. It can seem like an impossible dance back and forth trying to reach the promised lands of moderation.

I spent my life in this dance for years. Wanting my drinking habits to be better, thinking that this time would be different, thinking I could just have one or two (and sometimes I could). Then I would always end back into my cycle and feel deflated, guilty and like I had let myself down again. I know how difficult this can feel but I think there is much value in moderation and much to be learned from the concept. 

I have noted below my tops reasons why I think moderation shouldn’t be shamed and can actually empower us on our journey; 

Moderation can feel like a less scary place to explore than sobriety – moderation can often be the first step into a sobriety journey. Many people start to think that their drinking habits are having a negative effect in their life and want this to change. The thought of giving up alcohol FOREVER or for a long period can seem terrifying but moderation gives us a first step into exploring a life with less alcohol.

Moderation can highlight the help you actually need – you might arrive at moderation thinking you will just start to have one or two on a night out and slowly start to realise that you are drinking more than you intended and that moderation isn’t actually possible for you (no judgement by the way its a difficult place to straddle for sure). This can often lead to people reaching out for further support and looking into other options (hello sobriety).

Some people can genuinely moderate – I know people that are moderate drinkers, I know people that have had serious drug and drink issues and can have the occasional drink. I realise this might not be the majority but these people exist and who are we to take that away or shame this option when for some people it really works and helps them to lead a healthier and happier life.

Moderation can make sobriety easier – the thing is if you have tried to moderate and it hasn’t worked out for you it might make it easier to land in a totally alcohol-free life. It can make you feel like you have explored all avenues and feel like an easier segway into sober living without feeling like there is something else you need to explore.

Moderation has helped me in my own journey from both sides of the coin. I have experienced this being useful  as I once had a very problematic relationship with alcohol and moderation was never an option for me despite trying so hard and this is what made me realise I needed to get sober. 

Then after my years of getting to the root cause of my drinking, therapy, changing daily habits, training in the many courses I have done around addiction and transformation and no longer needing to escape my life, I found myself in a situation where I was able to indeed just have one or two on occasion and the concept of moderation allowed me a space to explore.

I don’t think that without being 4 years totally sober and doing such deep work on myself I would have gotten to a space where an occasional drink was possible for me. My months of moderation also gave me greater insights into what alcohol gives me and the truth of that is that it makes me feel vibrationally lower and living alcohol-free is how I want to live my life. 

Moderation can be the reason someone gets to sobriety, moderation can be the reason someone is able to cut down their drinking and moderation can be the reason why someone is able to look at their relationship with alcohol in the first place.  Let’s not shame it!

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What Is The Difference Between An Unhealthy Habit VS Addiction?

What Is The Difference Between An Unhealthy Habit VS Addiction?

What Is The Difference Between An Unhealthy Habit VS Addiction?

If I were to ask you what your unhealthy habits are, what would you tell me?

Mine right now is scrolling on the internet on my phone before bed and first thing in the morning. I once had my morning routine sussed and my phone didn’t make an appearance until I had finished but bad habits have a way of creeping back in if we don’t become vigilant with them. This is also my accountability FYI that from tomorrow (Monday is always a great day to start a new habit by the way so do feel free to join me) I will get back into reading 20 minutes before bed and do a meditation when I first wake up. Accountability is key when we are looking to make a change. If you feel like it do let me know in the comments section what small or big change you would like to make this week and we can do this together!

A good example of when an unhealthy habit of mine spiralled is when I started socially smoking at college and then just like that I was going to the newsagent every morning and I became a daily smoker. What was once an unhealthy social habit soon becomes an unhealthy addiction. Smoking has also been the most difficult thing for me to kick. It has helped me deal with breakups and breakdowns in my hangover free life and given me something to help deal with difficult emotions. But each time I have picked it back up again I put it back down straight away and unlike my younger smoking days it stays firmly in the unhealthy habit category and does not spiral into the addiction category (progress not perfection right?).  Don’t get me wrong I have dealt with plenty of big things without resorting back to unhealthy behaviours but sometimes life happens and it all feels too much and we need to move through turbulent times with some sort of coping method (maybe yours is alcohol, drugs, sex, porn, online shopping, gambling, food or social media). 

I am telling you this because it’s important to recognise we are all human. I am by no means perfect and yes I have overcome a lot but we are still all just doing our best and navigating the rocky waters of life. The last few months in my life have been particularly difficult but I am pleased to report I have dealt with things through running, yoga, swimming, cups of tea and tapping with maybe some internet scrolling but like I said progress not perfection. I call this habit positive progress. 

But what happens when we can’t stop our unhealthy habit? 

I have recently been studying a new coaching course with the amazing Nikki Heyder (if you don’t follow her you definitely should) and this has been a topic we have been covering. I wanted to share this with you because we ALL have unhealthy habits of some sort but when exactly does this become an addiction?

What Is Addiction?

According to Medical News Today addiction is:

Addiction is an inability to stop using a substance or engaging in a behavior even though it is causing psychological and physical harm.

According to Psychology Today, addiction is:

A person with an addiction uses a substance, or engages in a behavior, for which the rewarding effects provide a compelling incentive to repeat the activity, despite detrimental consequences. Addiction may involve the use of substances such as alcohol, inhalants, opioids, cocaine, and nicotine, or behaviors such as gambling.

According to Dr Gabor Mate (addiction expert) addiction is:

Any behavior that gives a person temporary relief and pleasure, but also has negative consequences, and to which the individual will return time and again.

Essentially we can look at addiction as an unhealthy habit (that we can’t stop) that has spun out of control that we continue to engage in despite its negative consequences. Whereas an unhealthy habit can be recognised as destructive but is something that we can stop engaging in.

Things can spiral for a number of different reasons – a big life change, health issues, mental health issues, trauma, feelings of grief, shame, anxiety, loneliness, boredom, social pressure, environment, difficult family dynamics, stress, genetic predispositions, or a hedonistic lifestyle over a prolonged period of time. There are so many factors as to how an unhealthy habit can turn into an addiction and why we engage in a bad habit in the first place.

It’s important to know that if this resonates with you that change is possible and there is help out there. It can feel really scary but reaching out for help is a brave act and nothing to feel ashamed about.

I believe addiction and unhealthy habits are on a spectrum and there doesn’t need to be a rock bottom moment. There might be something that you are doing in your life that is having a negative effect on your life and you are unhappy with. This is enough of a reason to want to stop and reach out for help (as much as a rock bottom moment is).  The lift can stop at floor 3 where you can get out without it having to go all the way down to floor 0.

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Challenges Of Sober Socialising

Challenges Of Sober Socialising

Challenges Of Sober Socialising

There is no doubt about it, sober socialising can feel daunting at times. Even though I have been hangover free for 5 years and have had many many sober socialising experiences there are still moments I feel socially awkward, know I would feel more excited about the evening if I thought I was going to have a drink and question whether or not I actually want to go (because honestly staying in bed with a cup of tea is calling my name).

Regardless of whether you are sober sober, sober curious, hangover free or just taking a night off from time to time it can feel more challenging and more daunting than others. Today I wanted to write about some of the challenges you might face to let you know this is completely normal and that you are not alone.

I have listed below some challenges you might face…

You Might Feel Left Out

Socialising with others who drink can often leave non-drinkers feeling out of place, uncomfortable, and even bored. One of the biggest challenges of socialising without alcohol is finding a way to fit in with others who do drink. Many non-drinkers feel like they’re missing out on the fun because everyone around them is drinking. It can be tough to find common ground with others when you feel they are on a different level to you.

You Might Feel Peer Pressure

Socialising without alcohol can be a challenging task, especially in a society where drinking is considered as a norm for social occasions. This is obviously improving and I hope by being a member of our community that this feels easier for you but there is no doubt that peer pressure can play a big part in the choices we make.

You Might Feel Social Anxiety

Social anxiety is an extreme fear of being judged or scrutinised by others in social or performance situations. Not everyone will suffer from this but it can be quite debilitating if you do and no doubt you may have found some coping strategies to manage this (hello alcohol). Alcohol can reduce stress and inhibit impulse control, having the effect of temporarily relieving the symptoms of anxiety; unfortunately, these “positive” effects are fleeting.

You Might Find It Difficult To Tell People You Aren't Drinking

Sometimes telling people you don’t drink is harder than actually not drinking. Will they judge me? Do they still think I am fun? Will they still want to spend time with me? I know this can feel difficult but just know that if anyone actually does think any of these then they are not your people.

You Might Need To Re-Navigate Your Social Life

Let’s be honest, being around people racking up a row of tequila just isn’t going to be as fun. The things that you used to find fun might not be anymore but that’s okay because there are so many other things you can do to have a thriving social life. Like yummy dinners, AF cocktail hunting, reading, alcohol-free events, joining group exercise classes or joining a chess club (yes I am actually about to do this).

If any of these resonate with you I want you to know its all part of the process, growth and self – discovery finding your authentic self sans booze.

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The Advantages & Disadvantages of Sober Dating

The Advantages & Disadvantages of Sober Dating

The Advantages & Disadvantages of Sober Dating

Never have I ever had more regret than my drinking days and dating. I would wake up feeling anxious about what I said knowing I had over shared on every area of my life, potentially suggesting we should pick up drugs and most probably ending back at theirs. The sinking feeling of knowing I will probably not ever see them again. What I really wanted was to feel held and feel love even if it was for a fleeting moment. The cost of these fleeting moments were a spiral of self deprecation and feeling even worse about myself than I already did. This was the destructive cycle of my dating life pre 2018. Just about as destructive as my drinking and drug taking. I would most probably already be half cut by the time I even got to the date. I would often think of all the potential boyfriends that maybe would have been had I not been such a mess in my dating heyday (although now I am very grateful that none of them actually did become my boyfriend).

When I got sober I started my true journey of self love where I learnt to practice self love and not seek validation from external factors (in my case the opposite sex), I started to create boundaries in my dating life, get really intentional about the type of person and relationship I wanted. I started to get to know myself and figure out what I actually wanted instead of just caring if someone was good looking and was going to get drunk with me (no wonder things never really worked out).

Regardless where you are on your hangover free journey, which might be fully sober, mindful drinking or sober curious, I would always encourage a first date to be a sober one. I have found many benefits to sober dating from helping build my inner confidence away from alcohol, to making better dating choices and having better experiences to not wasting as much time as I can really ascertain how I actually feel about someone quicker. I don’t wake up feeling anxious although I definitely still overshare (I suppose I can’t blame alcohol for everything). It really has been a journey of self – discovery and growth that has allowed me to work on myself and given me insights into how I can show up better for myself and for others that I really don’t think I would have learnt had I still been in my booze infused dating bubble.

Below is my honest debrief of sober dating outlining the positives and negatives so you can make up your own mind about whether this could work for you.


Recognising Red Flags Sooner

I can sniff out a red flag a mile away – emotionally unavailable, not looking for anything serious, has an unhealthy relationship with drugs and alcohol, does not share the same values as me, inconsistent and many many other red flags that you can notice while dating. The truth is previously I would ignore these things because of the chemistry, because we got on so well and because we had a laugh but the truth is I no longer find any of these attractive and can easily leave a situation when I know in the long run it won’t fully serve me.

Putting Your Best Foot Forward

I always feel I am bringing my best and true self to a date. I feel more confident knowing things won’t escalate, that I won’t slur my words and that I will stay in control and be able to keep my boundaries in place. I know my date will get to know the real me and this makes me feel more confident about sober dating.

You Know If Feelings Are Real

 I can’t tell you how many people I would think I found attractive, had great conversation with and had great chemistry but the reality was after a few more dates I realised we didn’t have that much in common and it was the alcohol that was heightening my emotions and making me feel more into the person than I actually was.

You Attract Healthier Dates

I am not interested in people that drink or take drugs, that aren’t prepared to be vulnerable, that don’t own their sh**, and that don’t want to make an effort – I won’t date someone that is not in alignment with my lifestyle. I  feel the people that come into my life now that I am not drinking feel more intune with who I am (they tend to be non drinkers or mindful drinkers, want to lead a life making healthier choices and want to form more conscious connections) 


Rejection Feels More Painful

I have had many times when things haven’t worked out with someone and it has felt so deeply painful. It can feel like someone is rejecting my true self. I no longer have the excuse of ‘I was drunk’ or ‘I was a total mess’. It can feel even more heartbreaking when things don’t work out and I also don’t have anything to help me escape my feelings.

You Have Less Sex

 I will be writing a whole article around this but I no longer engage in casual sex now that I am sober, which means unless I am in a relationship or have been seeing someone for a while I don’t get much errrm… action!! I am also not placing myself in places like a nightclub or bar as often where I would usually meet people for this to be a regular option. Depending on how you feel about sex (there is no judgment here if casual sex does work for you) you may find this area of your life is a lot less than it once used to be.


If you are feeling like you want to give AF dating a go I have put together some fun dating ideas. In fact I received this message from a friend the other day.

‘Decided to stop drinking for a bit. Just had my first sober date. Thoroughly enjoyed it and now home and very content I can wake up without a hangover. Hope you are good’

If I haven’t been able to convince you it’s a good idea maybe my friends’ glowing review of AF dating will. 

Fair Game

25 Fishermans Walk, London E14 4DH

Remember when you were a kid at the funfair and all you could think was, “Please make the fun last forever.” Fast forward to Canary Wharf, 2023. It’s time to be a kid again. All those fairground games you couldn’t get enough of, now with the very latest tech, London’s hottest street food, plus 3 bars serving cocktails and craft beer. All the fun and all the Lucky Saint! Great for a competitive and interactive date!

Club Soda Tasting Rooms

39 Drury Ln, London WC2B 5RR

Why not book in a cocktail making masterclass? Or get the experienced bar team to shake you up an AF delight? And impress your date in London’s first non -alcoholic tasting room. Club Soda’s Tasting Room, Bar and Shop is the UK’s premier destination for low and no drink discovery, offering you a chance to explore a curated collection of over 150 of the best and brightest low-alcohol and alcohol-free drinks brands.

Candlelight Concert

Various locations

Want a romantic evening? Enjoy a host of concerts illuminated by candlelight and performed by live musicians taking place in various spectacular locations, these candlelit performances allow you to experience live music in a completely new way. Enjoy a wide variety of themes and genres: classical, jazz, pop, movie soundtracks, ballet, among others.

Evelyn's Table

28 Rupert St, London W1D 6DJ

Do you want to spoil your date? Then this is an impressive sober spoiler!! Think 5 course tasting menu with AF drinks pairing. No doubt this will get you a second date! An intimate 12-seater counter dining experience, led by Head Chef James Goodyear. Evelyn’s Table serves an evolving menu built on James’s formative experiences, a love of British produce, and Scandinavian and Japanese techniques all underpinned by his classic French training.

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Why Do You Start Drinking According To Chat GPT?

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Why Do You Start Drinking According To Chat GPT?

I had a coaching client today ask: why did I start drinking? and it got me thinking about my own journey. I suppose for most of us it wasn’t necessarily why do I start drinking? It was more WHEN could I start drinking? There wasn’t really a question about if this was going to happen it was almost a predestined rite of passage which was bound in our social fabric.

I think there are many different reasons for this and everyone is so individual when it comes to their complex or simple relationship with alcohol depending on who you are, I very much sit in the complex camp. This week I decided to dive a little deeper to see what CHATGPT thinks and see what they think of this complicated topic. I actually think they have done quite a good job of explaining this topic (maybe even better than I could).

Alcohol consumption has been a part of human society for centuries. While some individuals choose not to drink, others find themselves drawn to alcoholic beverages. The motivations for drinking alcohol are diverse and can vary significantly from person to person. In this article, we aim to shed light on some common reasons why people drink alcohol.

Socialisation and Relaxation

One of the primary reasons people consume alcohol is to enhance social experiences and promote relaxation. Alcoholic beverages are often associated with celebrations, gatherings, and social events. Many cultures around the world have social customs where alcohol plays a central role – be it sharing drinks with friends, toasting to significant moments, or using alcohol to break the ice in social interactions. The relaxing effect of alcohol can also help individuals unwind, ease social anxiety, and temporarily escape from the stresses of daily life.

Cultural and Ritual Significance

Alcohol holds significant cultural and traditional value in various societies. It frequently plays a role in religious ceremonies, rites of passage, and cultural practices. Examples include champagne toasts at weddings, the use of wine in religious rituals, and the traditional consumption of sake in Japan. Alcohol, in these contexts, is often seen as a symbol of unity, celebration, and the preservation of cultural heritage.

Curiosity and Exploration

People may choose to drink alcohol out of curiosity or as part of exploration. Experimentation with different alcoholic beverages allows individuals to broaden their experiences and expand their gastronomic preferences. Sampling new drinks, wines, beers, or spirits can be an exciting way of discovering different flavors and textures, leading to a greater appreciation for the art and craftsmanship behind alcohol production.

Enhancing Mood or Euphoria

Alcohol can temporarily alter an individual’s mood by acting as a depressant on the central nervous system. Some individuals turn to alcohol in an attempt to escape negative emotions or temporarily experience feelings of euphoria. The initial buzz and sense of relaxation derived from alcohol are enticing for those seeking a break from their everyday routine or wishing to alleviate stress temporarily.

Peer Pressure and Social Norms

Peer pressure and social norms can significantly influence an individual’s decision to drink alcohol. Many social environments, especially among younger individuals, can exert social pressure to drink as a way of fitting in or conforming to group dynamics. The fear of missing out or being judged for not drinking can further influence someone’s choices.

Coping Mechanism and Self-Medication

Alcohol may be used as a coping mechanism for dealing with emotional pain, stress, or mental health issues. Some individuals may turn to alcohol as a form of self-medication to numb feelings of anxiety, depression, or loneliness. However, it is crucial to note that relying on alcohol as a long-term coping strategy can lead to dependency and exacerbate mental health issues.

The motivations behind alcohol consumption are multifaceted and can be deeply rooted in social, cultural, and individual factors. While many people enjoy alcohol responsibly and in moderation, it is essential to recognize the potential risks associated with excessive or problematic drinking habits. Educating oneself about alcohol consumption, understanding personal motivations, and seeking healthier alternatives to cope with negative emotions are crucial steps to living a sober lifestyle or indeed being able to be more mindful about consumption.

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Our Favourite AF Fizz: Get Ready for Party Season

Our Favourite AF Fizz: Get Ready for Party Season

It’s that time again – time for fun, festivities, and in most cases…lots of boozing! If, like us, you’re living a hangover-free life, don’t worry about FOMO during the festive season. There are plenty of AF fizzes to keep you in the mood to have fun this party season! Keep reading to uncover our favourites…

French Bloom

Made from de-alcoholized Chardonnay from France and other natural and organic ingredients such as lemon, French Bloom is both organic and vegan certified. It’s a sophisticated alcohol-free sparkling wine, reinventing long-lasting pleasurable moments, gathering family and friends from all horizons, collecting lasting memories.

Lyre's Classico

Bubbling with taste, generous aromatics, classic green apple tartness followed by a soft richness of pear, peach, and red apple on the palate. Classico Grande contains only 144 calories a bottle, cut a fine figure at all times and still toast to your good health.

So for your next celebration, gift-giving, toast, raise a Flute or two with an award winner 100% alcohol-free. Sip Sip Hooray!


Noughty’s non-alcoholic organic vegan sparkling Chardonnay has been dealcoholised to retain the rich flavour of this beautifully crafted bottle. It’s all of the enjoyment of your favourite bottle of fizz without the alcohol.


VINADA is not your traditional wine! It’s a glamorous sparkling wine with a bubble and without alcohol. Expect an impressive balanced flavour and compared to other non-alco wines, a superior taste experience. A low calorie drink yet full of style and attitude to celebrate and have fun!

Belle & Co

Belle & Co. is a refreshing and finely balanced non alcoholic drink. It combines sparkling fermented grape juice blended with premium green tea. Perfect by itself, served chilled in a flute or a coupe, but also makes for a great mocktail ingredient. It’s the ideal drink for people who have chosen to stop or limit their alcohol intake but still want to enjoy a special experience.

Wild Life Botanicals

Wild Life Botanicals is a totally new type of magical alchemy that delivers plant power in all her true nature allowing you to deliver yours. Ultra-low in alcohol yet ultra-high in goodness, this unique English bubbly is infused with an uplifting elixir of vitamins, minerals and botanicals each chosen for their health-giving properties. At only 0.5% ABV and less than 35 calories per glass, Wild Life Botanicals champions a ‘no limits’ lifestyle. Wild Life Botanicals is quite simply big on benefits yet low in alcohol. That’s what we call double bubble!

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What Is Hangover Free Living?

What Is Hangover Free Living?

Our founder Emily Syphas was stuck in a destructive cycle of drugs, drink and unhealthy relationships and now she lives hangover-free. Here’s how…

I started my sobriety journey back in 2018, out of urgency. I was stuck in a destructive cycle of drugs, drinking and unhealthy romantic relationships. My mental health was at an all time low and I knew I needed help. At the time I was working in the nightlife scene in London and literally got paid to party. I knew I needed to make some serious lifestyle changes but wanted to continue doing my job, living my life to the fullest and not have to compromise on my social life. I decided to embark on living an alcohol-free life but not holding myself back because I no longer was drinking.

Was I going to be sober forever? Could I go from a problematic relationship with alcohol to an unproblematic relationship with alcohol? And what does it take to moderate? Do I need to be so labelled for the rest of my life? I started to explore and expand my horizons on different learnings around changing my relationship with alcohol away from full-time sobriety (something that isn’t often spoken about in the sober space). I am also a coach and help others with their relationship with alcohol, but moderation or occasional drinking isn’t something I have ever been able to do. I wanted to gain a deeper understanding of alcohol coming from a now unproblematic space and answer my questions.

I couldn’t find the language to use around my exploration. Did I want to go back to regularly having alcohol in my life? No, but I did want to explore what alcohol means to me so I created the concept of hangover-free living which as a baseline meant I lived a life with no hangovers.

I want to highlight this is going to mean something different for each person as we are all so individual. For some it will mean no alcohol at all and for others it might mean one or two drinks on a night out, but it’s open for you to decide what this means to you (through my exploration period this meant maximum 2 drinks, with food, over a few hours, with people I trusted and no more than twice a month). Crucially throughout this time I still very much saw myself as someone that doesn’t drink rather than someone that drinks alcohol occasionally.

When I talk about hangover-free living, I don’t just mean alcohol. I mean hangover free from regrets, hangover free from anxiety and hangover free from bad habits. It’s about taking your power back and creating a healthier and happier way of living that feels more accessible than having to fit into a label (if this doesn’t work for you).

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How To Thrive This Sober October

How To Thrive This Sober October

Sober October is upon us once again, and given the last few months in the world we feel it’s the perfect time to put down the booze for 31 days to reset and reconnect with ourselves. A survey conducted by Alcohol Change over lockdown concluded that more than a quarter of people have drunk more during lockdown, and 1 in 5 people have been drinking as a response to stress or anxiety. It’s a great opportunity to put healthier habits and coping mechanisms in place for the last quarter of the year. We think a month off (although we would suggest 3 months if you want to really feel the benefits of an alcohol free life) is enough time to reap the rewards of better sleep, improved skin, feeling more focused and motivated, improved mood and have more energy. There really is nothing to lose by going alcohol free (apart from the booze) but everything to gain.

To help keep you motivated and on track, we have put together our 5 top tips to help you through a Sober October:

1. Find great AF alternatives

we are lucky enough that no/low is one of the biggest growing and most exciting categories out there. You won’t be stuck for choice when looking for an alcohol free alternative and some taste that good you won’t actually miss the real thing. It’s a good idea to get stocked up as this will help navigate reaching for something stronger when perhaps you have had a stressful day, feel like you want to celebrate or want to relax. My favourite AF spirits are Lyre’s, Caleno and Everleaf, my favourite fizz is Noughty or Wild Life Botanicals and my favourite beer is Heineken 0.0, Lucky Saint or Brewdog.

2. Enjoy hangover free mornings

Imagine no groggy mornings, no feelings of regret or anxiety and no wondering where all your money disappeared to. You get to wake up feeling fresh, motivated and ready to attack the day. You could even put a morning routine in place think 10 minutes of mediation, 20 minute run or yoga and then write down 5 things you are grateful for. This has been a game changer for me and I guarantee it will help you stay on track!

3. Take up something new

Not only are you going to have more energy you will have more time because you won’t be spending time in bed with a hangover and naturally will be going to bed earlier than usual so you will be having more time to do the thing(s) you have always wanted to do. Perhaps this is a simple as read a book you have always wanted to read or time for a podcast, taking up a new gym class, signing up for a course or visiting a park you have always wanted to visit. Whatever it is, write ONE thing down right NOW and go do it!

4. Keep up your social life

Make sure you still go out and go and do the social things you have planned to do or said you would attend. Sober socialising can be one of the most scariest things to do sans booze but one of the most important. Be kind to yourself if going for the whole evening seems too much allow yourself to go for an hour and then leave. The fact you showed up and were present is enough.

5. Find sober pals

This is the perfect opportunity to find some sober pals either other people you know that are taking part in Sober October or what about using this as an opportunity to connect with some new people? You can always head to our Sober & Social website to join our membership where we operate a sober buddy system and run weekly events so you can connect with like-minded people, look at communities like Club Soda or head to Instagram and start finding some sober accounts to follow and reach out (the sober community are super loving and responsive).

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Our Favourite CBD Brands To Help You Wind Down And Relax

Our Favourite CBD Brands To Help You Wind Down And Relax

CBD is one of those wellness crazes that doesn’t seem to be going away. And for good reason too; its countless benefits target a myriad of issues. CBD products can be used to treat conditions such as chronic pain, inflammation, migraines, epilepsy, autoimmune diseases, depression, and anxiety. 

Short for cannabidiol, CBD is one of the many cannabinoids, or chemical compounds, found in marijuana and hemp. You’re probably already familiar with tetrahydrocannabinol, or THC – however unlike its counterpart, CBD is not intoxicating or psychoactive. So what does this really mean? It’s not going to make you high!

There are now an abundance of CBD brands to choose from. But if you’re new to the CBD party, this can be somewhat overwhelming – so we’ve narrowed down our absolute favourites so that you can take your pick from the top CBD brands to help you wind down and relax. 


Take a trip to your happy days with Trip. Unlike its name suggests, Trip won’t have you tripping – instead, it’ll give your mind clarity and your body balance. Dedicated to sharing only the highest quality products so that you can relax into your best self. Trip do a range of CBD oils and drinks for you to choose from.

Trip drinks are deliciously refreshing, lightly sparkling and infused with natural adaptogens for stress-free sipping. They’re gluten-free, vegan, low calorie with no added sugar, made in the UK in 100% recyclable cans.

Trip CBD oils have been voted ‘UK’s best CBD oil’ as voted by Grazia. They hep you take a trip to find your calm, relax into your best self and feel more you. They are powered by natural ingredients, THC-free and third party lab tested to ensure the highest quality and purity.

Our favourite product: Peach & Ginger flavour CBD drink

Why we love it: It’s a little bit sweet, a little bit fruity, and a little bit gingery – an excellent combination if you ask us! 15mg of CBD is the perfect amount to feel chilled and relaxed. Plus, their sleek and chic branding is absolutely on point. It sits with pride on our shelves.


Tune into you and find your space with OTO. Combining an expert-recommended 40-60mg of purest CBD, with botanical extracts, essential oils and adaptogens, OTO create premium products that work.

Take your pick from CBD oils, drinks and skincare that will rebalance your body and mind. Whether you’re looking to manage your anxiety, get a good night’s sleep or simply amplify the moment, OTO’s CBD products can help improve your quality of life. All of their products deliver the optimum quantity of CBD to experience the maximum and inherent benefits of this natural ingredient.

Our favourite product: CBD sleep drops

Why we love it: With 1500mg of CBD, the OTO sleep drops help you relax, unwind and let go of the stresses of the day. All you need is a couple of drops before bed to know that you’ll drift off with ease. Plus, the minty flavour is tasty and refreshing!


Rain is a cannabis wellness company making best-in-class therapeutic products for modern living. With their range of sleek CBD products, you can cleanse the old and tend the new. Rain create beautiful CBD candles, pens and balms that look minimal and luxury.

Our favourite product: Rain Cloud

Why we love it: Rain Cloud is the type of item you want to show off. A pen containing a 40% measure of high-quality CBD that’s super luxury looking and incredibly sleek. It delivers a natural lemon verbena flavour and provides approximately 90 x two-second inhalations.

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